Energy Exchange - Why Things Sometimes Go Wrong
I really had a hard time coming up with a name for this post. It is about so much more than the title would lead you to beleive.
Did you know or realization that money is a form of energy exchange. What else can you think of that may be a form of energy? Actual energy of course, but also your time and the kindness you give to another. Thinking of the principles of the Law of Attraction you have to send out/give a positive flow of energy to manifest the things you want in your life. So it is simple to understand that if you are flowing out positive energy that great things are coming your way and if you are flowing out negative energy OR you some how effect negatively the energy exchange coming from you that you may not get the great results you are hoping for.
I will give a simple scenario. Say you are working on a project and everything is going along great. You decide to kick it up a notch…so you start putting more of yourself into your project cause thinking in simple terms you feel that more has got to be better and give better and faster results. Sounds right, right? But what happens when you decide to give more of yourself to your project? What changes might you make in your life? Well, it might be less sleep, less attention to your health and less time of things non-project related such as friends and family. Lets say you had a friend that you felt was a little time consuming. And maybe also this friend was an energy drainer, always taking and as far as you can see never giving. So you decide it is time to cut the cords and let this friend go. Sounds right so far, right? But, now you have effected the energy exchange. Although this friend was possibly an energy drainer most of the time the exchange was still happening. The friend was getting energy from you (that was needed by them for whatever reason) and then instead of you getting energy in return from the friend the universe was giving you energy. Why was the Universe giving you energy? Cause and effect. Even though maybe all you were doing was being a friend, a shoulder to cry on, and ear to bend, you were doing something that had the effect of sending out positive energy and the universe was rewarding you for that. Ohhhh, but you dropped the friend, even if only temporarily. What is going to happen with the energy exchange now. You have to give to get and now you are giving less. You guess it! You are going to get less!
Now think of all the different scenarios that come to mind where this simple exchange may be working (or now not working) in your life. Don’t take the simple things you give of yourself for granted because it just may be the little thing that causes you to not get the things you want out of life.
January 7th, 2009 at 9:50 pm
Sherry,
I understand what you mean in your example of a friend who is an energy drain. Friends, family, strangers etc. can be a huge drain on us. It is true that no outlay of energy is truly lost. We know intuitively that as soon as we send energy out the Universe is there filling us up again.
How is it then that I at times feel completely used up, wrung out, have to stay in bed for a week to recover? For myself, I think that I have just as many, if not more, hang ups about receiving energy as I do about sending or giving energy.
I’ve read some of your other blogs. I know you are an empath. Have you ever had to, wanted to, needed to, been asked to, say what you really want, what you really need and when you open your mouth to speak your throat closes? I have. My throat chakra comes to a screeching halt. the more I struggle to speak the more choked I feel.
This experience is just one of many blocks in the transfer of energy that I must overcome if I want to open the flow of Divine energy through me. These blocks have allowed me to survive as an empath in an apathetic society. Most of them were set in place when I was very young to protect a heart easily crushed and shattered.
There are many ways to receive energy around the blocks we have. One of the methods I use most frequently is through addictive relationships. Its almost like if I can find someone to drain enough energy fast enough the influx is so forceful that it just rushes past my blocks.
The cost of this method is I stay blocked and the other person also stays blocked. Ah here’s where I feel the twinge, ouch. Isn’t the other person a child of the Universe just as I am? Isn’t she just as entitled to all the goodness and love and energy the Universe holds without interference from me? In engaging in an addictive relationship am I not blocking not only my own healing and highest good but also someone else’s?
Ah crap, yeah.
God help me.
January 8th, 2009 at 2:13 pm
Pauli,
You’ve got really good insight into what is going on with you and within you. I always say that’s the first step and so if I at least know what is going on and can recognize it then that is a great first step.
I know what you mean about staying in the bed trying to recover for a week. I was reminded by my boyfriend aome weeks ago that I often forget to take my own advice. lol. And that is what usually does me in. I do realize that if I take the time every morning or evening to ground, clear, and flow energy in and also out into the universe that I wouldn’t have much down time. Oh…and most importantly remembering to cut cords/break the connections. Getting side tracked with everyday life I often forget to break those connections. I swear by the citirine crystal for it’s properties of absorbing negative energy and transmuting it but sometimes forget to stick it in my bra at the start of the day and beleive me I notice the difference.
I think it is finding the balance…enough time schedule to do the maintenance that the empath has to and must do in order to not only survive but enjoy life. Also important because if I am in the bed drained of energy I can’t be of any help to others. Also remembering that you can be in the presence of an energy drainer and block them from draining you even by using simple techniques as keeping your arms crossed. I have a tendency to not look people in the eye when I am speaking with them and I beleive I instintively do that to try not to establish a connection to them. Some people do not like that and will call you on it though because some people believe it is disrespectful or a sign of weakness to not look someone in the eyes when speaking with them.
With the throat charka what has happened to me in the past is sometimes when I have stated something I have just figured out which had to do witht he lesson I was completely my throat charka starts to close, becomes very sore but then clears up again within hours or a day. I have heard someone speak of their throat chakra exploding from learn an overwhelmind about of new spiritual knowledge as well…of course for that to happen they would have not only had to hear it but beleive it and incorporate it as their truths. My guides make my left hand tingle with energy when they are trying to tell me to keep my mouth shut like when being confronted harshly by someone. lol. Sometimes though they just can’t hold me back. lol.
I think that by making the decision to cut ties with an energy drainer you are not interferring with them. We are all at different places on our path. We are not actually responsible for each other. We all are here learning, healing, passing the tests and moving on our paths. I know my friend will not always be an energy drainer and will learn and grow just as I have and may even zip by me on the path one day. lol. But I know I am not responsible to hold her up. Also one other important thing is change. Some times it is time for that change. Possibly it was time for us to move on from each other and with change, when you get rid of the old you are making way for the new. And that is not just for me but for her as well. I think that it may make room in her life for the person or what is needed to come along for her. I know that has already happened for me. Remember sometimes you need to get rid of the old, what is no longer needed, useful, or serving a purpose in your life, to make room for those new wonderful things.
And the addictive relationships…look for my article on the mirrors. There are some books references at the end. I think you might find a good answer to help with that blocks you have.
He heard you!
January 9th, 2009 at 6:50 pm
Sheri,
Thanks for replying. I’m going to get some citrine ASAP. I’ve known that I was an empath for 25 years. Until then, I didn’t know what was (wrong) with me. I had a mentor who used to say, “I don’t have any problems today only opportunities to grow.” lol Pfft! All my problems just disappeared–again.
This thread originated with your post on energy exchange. The opportunity I’m taking in regards to energy flow is clearing 4th and 5th chakra blocks–
I think you just took my headache (caffine withdrawl). Its 1:45pm Jan. 9, 2009. Stop it. I appreciate it, but there’s no reason for us both to have a headache. There, I just took some asprin and I’m sucking down coffee as I write this.
Wow, are you were you on the other end of this? My headache is gone its now 1:56pm. I shut down the outflow of my headache and grounded it instead. Then I allowed healing energy in and directed it to the tension in my head and neck. The headache was gone in seconds. As soon as my headache was completely gone I sent healing energy back down the line. First a golden light to the head to remove the headache, then as I drew back I sensed a request for more. I again sent golden light to the head then pink to the entire body. The whole experience leaves me feeling empowered and energized.
Dang, I wish I could call you to confirm it was you. My inner skeptic keeps telling me that I only think it was you because I was writing to you when it happened. Please confirm whether or not you sensed any of this. If you want to do so privately I’ve given my e-mail address. Public or private it makes no difference to me.
I’m not often on the receiving end of an empathic healing. If it was you, very nicely done thank you! If it wasn’t you, isn’t it so cool that I had this experience while I was writing to you about energy exchange? Either way, know that you are loved.
He always does.
paulinejanoschka@juno.com
January 9th, 2009 at 11:05 pm
Pauli,
Well at that time I was taking a nap and I do go out of body during my sleep and do a lot of work that way but I don’t think it was me. Gold energy is very powerful…gold is also AA Michael I beleive. By any chance at any point did you ask for help even in an indirect way?
Heart and throat Chakra. The heart chakra is very important…I consider it to be the most important of all the chakras especially since that is where you aim to feel and communicate with God and feel him…that is where God is. Ya know the saying he is always with you. Flowing the violet flame to those chakras works wonders…have you ever tried that. It’s is an awesome experience that also creates this energy flow that is just amazing to feel. Let me know if you give it a try. Also close your eyes and visualize that you have a violet flame in the center of your heart chakra…and periodically do that with the goal being that you permanently have the violet flame in the center of your heart chakra.
Also there is the “Om Namaha Shivaya” mantra that works well for clearing blocks from the chakras. You can chant it during meditation or chant the mantra for the specific chakra as you meditate on it and use the violet flame at the same time…that is very powerful. So let me know if you try it and how your experience is.
Awwww thank you…you are very loved and watched over as well. You are such a beautiful person.
Sherry