Developing Your Empathy – Part III

So far in Part I and II we have gone over the basics of grounding and protection. By now you should be at a point where you feel not only comfortable with grounding and protecting but also more confident. Before doing any thing related to developing empathy, psychic abilities or just even doing chakra work it is very important that you ground and protect. Sorry to have to be redundant but I know for myself in the beginning even though I knew how important it was I would often forget at times myself. The reality is that some times you will have a busy day and maybe you do not take the time in the morning to ground and protect because you are running late or your 4 year old decides he’s going to cut his own hair and it side tracts you. So if you got busy and didn’t do it this morning, do it now.

So in this Part III I have decided that it is time to purposely feel. As an empath you get use to picking up things here and there that you are not actually attempting to. You are probably use to feeling strangers in the grocery store checkout lane without any effort and feeling that you really didn’t need to know that the cashier was in a bad mood or that the person directly in front of you has some dental problem. True. But how about using that ability to your advantage? What things can you think of that would be useful to know? Whether your boss is in a good mood or whether you need to be on your best behavior and keep your distance? Whether a co-worker has ill intentions and is planning to stab you in the back? Whether your 5 year old is lying about who broke that vase?

In order to feel there needs to be a connection to what you are attempting to feel. Just like there are many ways to ground and protect there are various ways to connect to someone or some thing. Remember that everything is made up of energy regardless of what it is. Whether it is a chair, your dog, your rose bush or your neighbor it is all made up of energy. Everything also has an different energy signature or vibration. No two are the same although to feel it may be hard to differentiate many times. The best place to begin learning to connect and to begin empathically feeling is right in your own backyard. The trees, the grass, that blooming plant you favor so much, the bird that are perched on tree nearby, that cat that is walking by on his/her way home, etc.

Connecting

I will write about two different ways to connect. Before practicing it is best if you clearly understand how to disconnect, so do not gloss over that information.

When I connect to anything I visualize in my minds eye and imagine myself merging with the person or object. Okay, think of something you might see on Star Trek. You can either see yourself merging into the person or object or the object or person merging into you. Once you are connected you should be able to feel that you are. Now this is very important…if you don’t know 100% how you feel you will have a hard time knowing when you are connected and feeling someone else. So before you say I did it and I don’t know if it worked or not, know that unless you have gotten to the point where you can discern what is your and what is not you will have a hard time knowing when and if you are connected. Hence one of the common problems of an empath, right? So what do you do? You will only learn to feel the difference by continually trying. Don’t give up because it is hard. Who said it would be easy? Not I. lol. But if you keep trying I assure you it will get easier and easier to feel what is and is not yours.

Another way to connect is through your chakras. For example, when connecting to a person you visualize that a stream of energy that is cord like is going out from your charkas and connecting to the other persons chakras. So root chakra to root chakra, third eye to third eye, crown to crown, etc. When it comes to telepathy it is similar, so if you have taken any courses in telepathy such as “SANANDA COURSE IN TELEPATHY” this will be familiar to you.

Connected, Now What?

Be still. Here is where meditating will help you. Through meditation you have learned to still and quiet your mind. Psalm 46:10 “Be still and know that I am God.” Ah ha…how many of you have heard that bible verse said? Key “BE STILL!” Quiet your mind and allow yourself to feel. Question yourself in your head and ask “What do I feel? How does this person feel? How does this tree feel?” etc. As you are connected and are starring at that tree and seeing its branches blow in the wind, do you feel it…the swaying of the tree? Can you feel yourself start to sway?

It is a good idea to keep a note book or journal on your computer to note your experiences and what you feel specifically. Because often you feel things you don’t quite know what you are feeling. If you are connecting to your best friend and you feel something strange you have never felt before area your jaw area and then later she/he tells you they had a bad toothache or just had wisdom teeth pulled, you can then connect the feeling. This is not easy. Do not assume that you will know what it is that you are feeling exactly. It takes time to learn what various things feel like whether it comes to physical feelings or emotions. Sometimes you just know because you have felt the feeling before and you can tie it to something from your past experiences. Like for example, you may feel someones emotions and think to yourself “Oh I remember feeling this way when I was young and had to move away from my best friend.” The more experiences you have had in life I do believe the easier it is to discern what you are feeling.

Keep in mind that when you have a connection to someone or something it is a two way street. There is not just energy flowing one way but both ways. So just as you may be able to feel the other person, animal, plant, etc they can feel you as well. Also keep in mind that someone who is well developed when it comes to sensing subtle energy will feel you connect. So in practicing it is important that you be responsible and ethical.

Disconnecting

There are a couple of ways you can disconnect, and of course you will eventually choose your own way of connecting and disconnecting. I am giving you what I have come up with for me. You may think of a way to visualize connecting and disconnecting that is better or easier for you. So keep in mind, there is no one right way. One day you may even get a little craftier and come up with a trigger that allows you to connect and disconnect easily.

One way to disconnect is to visualize the person un-merging from you as though the two of you are slowing separating. After seeing the separation imagine seeing a cord that is still connecting the two of you. Visualize that you either have a sword (like the sword of Archangel Michael) and you cut the cord or that you pull the cord out of the other person and it retracts back into you. After the cord is severed see the other person surrounded in a white light bubble floating up, up, and away from you.

The other way to disconnect is to just see the other person a few feet in front of you, and see the cord connecting you both and sever it at which time you see them surrounded in a bright white light bubble and floating up and away from you.

Note that you may need to go through the motions of disconnecting several times before feeling that you are in fact disconnected from the other person. Based on what the other person has going on it may be easy or difficult to disconnect. There was a time I use to be scared to connect to people because of bad experiences I had with trying to disconnect from them. Say for example they are sick, are going through emotional issues, etc. and because of that their energy is low. So being connected to them it is like they are getting that extra energy their body needs. So, when it is time to disconnect I like to think of it as their subtle body doesn’t want the connection to be severed because it needs that extra energy at the time. And no it is not safe to play the hero and stay connected thinking you are doing a good thing for them. That will only eventually lead you to being drained of energy and feeling sick.

It is very difficult to disconnect from someone who has a substance abuse problem. If you run into a situation where you find you can’t disconnect, don’t panic. Stay calm and ask your guides, God, Yeshua (Jesus), or Archangel Michael to help you disconnect. Remember they can’t help you unless you ask for help. They may see you panicked and flopping around like a fish and still they can’t help you until you ask for help.

The Difference between Developing and Developed

In the beginning when you are developing you will have limited control. Connecting and disconnecting may not be easy in the beginning. With practice of course you will get better. Once fully developed you will have not only control but the confidence needed to feel you are always in control of yourself.

Privacy

Of course I have to bring this up. Often you will feel something that someone is feeling. Regardless of your ability that is still private information. You have an obligation and a responsibility to be moral and ethical when it comes to knowing things about people. Don’t get caught up into trying to develop your empathic abilities so much that you cross the line. Often there are things people do not want anyone to know and do not want to openly discuss with you. Just because you can feel do not feel that it is your responsibility to help someone just because you can feel them. Be very careful and if you are unsure of what to do with information you receive…that is your answer…do nothing with it and keep it to yourself.