When it comes to self work one of the toughest things to do for most is staying true to themselves through all situations no matter how tough though situations are. It is like saying “No matter what happens, don’t let it affect you at all on any level.” The phrase “Keeping the Light.” also means something similar just on an even more vast level.
Of course to even begin staying true to yourself you need to because very good at paying attention to your actions and thoughts. You have to become the police of your own self ready to stop suddenly and notice what you are doing, feeling and then right then stopping yourself from doing whatever it is that after all this time have become habit.
It is always easier to notice what another is doing but how does that help you? It doesn’t. The way to resolve what you have going on does not happen through another. Another knowing what they are doing and changing does not help or change you. Only you changing you helps you. You changing can also change the things, people and situations around you. Sometimes in big ways and other times in subtle ways. Often refusing to play anothers psychological games will alone change your life and make your days more pleasant. Think, is there a conversation you could have avoided recently all together by just simple not being the active participant in it? How would your day have been different if you would have decided not to play.
Then there are some situations we can not avoid. Most think of family, especially kids, as unavoidable. Of course you often times can’t simply avoid people but you can still in all situations be in control of yourself. What you say, do and especially how you react and whether you react at all. You don’t have to play!
No, you don’t have to play but many can’t help it. They get sucked in because it is their own negative ego that eggs them on. Do you hear that little voice inside your head that says “How dare they talk to me that way?” Do you hear the little voice that says “They need to understand who I am and who they are dealing with?” Do you hear that little voice that gets you started and before you know it you are beyond frustrated, your heart is beat faster, your sweating and shaking a little, and feeling that emotional knot in the pit of your stomach? That is your negative ego that leads you down that path and you don’t have to listen any more. It is okay to ignore that little voice and opt to only listen to the one you hear that is positive.
If you don’t know the difference between you negative ego and your higher self, the higher self voice is the one who only says positive things that makes you feel better. If what you hear most of the day is a little voice that points out negative things, unfair senerios, etc then you need to begin the process of ignoring that voice. As long as you are willingly listening, it will keep talking. The more you ignore it and work on not reacting to what it is telling you the more it will fade until the times it does speak up is few and farther between.
The work of learning to stay true to yourself is not easy by any means. Don’t be anxious to master this one for until the day you become enlightened fully you will still occasionally fall prey to allowing yourself to be affected by things, people, situations, etc.
Kryon once said in a channeling that a good test of the negative ego and whether you have it under control is the question…
While someone is yelling at you, in your face, calling you names and being nasty to you can you only react by thinking thoughts of love for them?
That question also reminds me of another important point. If you do not think that is achievable by you, or maybe anyone, then in fact within your reality it is not achievable. The only way to achieve great things is to think that you in fact can.
With Children…
It is important to remember that your child is a child. Often as parents we are so busy trying to get our kids to act more like adults. Adults can stay organized, focused, can remember daily tasks that need to be done, understand on a higher cognitive level right from wrong, etc. Children have what is needed to make it into the Kingdom of Heaven and many parents strive daily to change that and take that away from them, unconsciously of course. Growing your children up and away from God. Sure we think we are doing the right things because we are playing that role as parent and in our mind this and that and the other is soooo important. We teach less by example and when we are teaching by example we are unaware most of the times of the examples our children are seeing. We fully expect them to do as we say and not as we do. Then they grow up and have to straighten all that out for themselves because we have taken what God has gifted us, a child who is a pure vessel, and clouded it and muddied it up. If most parents can’t achieve the goal of becoming worthy of entrance into the kingdom of heaven then how do we grow children up and show them the way there? It all starts with what we do as parents. Unfortunately as parents we are often teaching our kids while looking through the tainted glasses made tinted by our own baggage. Work hard to clear the tint away and see clearly and then you can teach another.
Jesus was good with both children and adults. He was the one who said (as it states in the Gospel of Thomas) “be like the passerby.” Sometimes it is okay to be that silent witness even where children are concerned, but many times our own negative ego has us looking at other parents and how their children behave sending us off into a state of trying to “be like the Jones” instead of understanding that everyone is different and that other parent may not have the same lessons in life as you planned for yourself in this lifetime. Ahhh that affects things greatly. So your child just did something that is soooo over the top and you want to react. Is it a lesson for you maybe. Just as God, the Ascended Masters, and Angel’s can use adults and work through them to dole out these lessons and so too can children be used. My son has suddenly said things many times and I can tell they were not his words but someone speaking through him to me. The test? The test is to see if when given that chance unknowingly if you will test him like God. Will you see him as his God self and deal with him accordingly? If God can use adults do you not think him capable of using your own children as well to provide you with the situations that give you the lessons you need in this lifetime? His ways are not our ways and do not underestimate at any time what may be happening.
