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If you met and old friend you hadn’t seen in many years you would probably ask them how they have been and what is new. Think for a moment and realize what answer you would give to this question if asked by someone who hadn’t seen you in some time. You would probably tell them about things such as job changes, promotions, moving to a new house that you are proud to have acquired or a particular neighborhood, and of course you would probably talk about your significant other and then your kids or grand kids. Hmmm. That is a lot of catching up and good information however there is no mention of “The Self.” The most important or what should be the most important thing to you. What about changes to the self?

Take away all the superficial things, except the kids because they are of course not superficial, but take away talk of a new job, the expensive vacation you were able to take, the new house, new cars, and now tell me what is new with you. Have you changed your way of thinking? Have you changed your way of treating people? Have you changed the way you see things and view life? Have you realized an importance in having lots of joy in your life? Have you changed your view on what are the important things in life? What is new with you?

Many times I hear people ask why this person or that person treats them badly. I often answer the question in a similar way and that is that it is not really about them. Most often it is not. Many times people are unhappy with their lives or a situation they are in and it is easier to direct their anger for their situation onto someone else than to look in the mirror and admit they are unhappy with the man looking back at them in the mirror. I giggle a little bit right now because Michal Jackson’s song “Man in the Mirror” just popped into my head and it is actually perfect for what I am trying to say. “I’m looking at the man in the mirror. I’m asking him to change his ways. And no message could have been any clearer, if you want to make a change, make a better way, then look at yourself and then make a change!” Sorry if the lyrics are not just right…I typed it as the song was playing in my head.

The self is so important but many people go through life never truly realizing that. Sure they understand at times the need to put themselves first but I am talking about seeing the importance of the way they treat the self and what they do for the self. The self have many needs but the most important one is LOVE. Unconditional love of the self and I am talking about the kind where you take the time to forgive the self, understand the needs of the self and then actually try to meet them. Once a person can satisfy the self then they no longer will need to lash out to hurt another because they will then be happy with themselves.

The next time you find yourself asking the question of why some people are hurtful to others, take the time and see it as an opportunity to look and see what need their behavior may point to within your own self, instead of looking at them and what their problem could be. Resolutions of problems with another always start with changes within your own self. Once you are satisfied with yourself you will not care two cents what negative thing another does because when The Self is happy and healthy there isn’t a negative thing that can affect you.

Often I peek in on the empath groups of which there are many. I have met some wonderful empaths in all shapes and sizes. I am always thrilled to see how many are just realizing that they may be or are empaths and witnessing their eagerness to learn and start on the process of becoming a control empath.

I have asked Yeshua and my master teacher guide to help out here with some words. This will not be all sugar but it is time we add that spice and also give a little tough love. As I read others words and comments in the online community I am often being pushed to say much however I hold back a little because there are also many out there who are ready to be very combative and this is not what this is all about. This is about not the one but the many. This is about growth of the group, humanity, and giving a helping hand to humanity and not pacifying the one who is coming from a place of ego and low vibrations. I told you this would not be all sugar…but hang in there with me.

Even if you are just now realizing that you may be an empath you must know that there is more to it, more to you, your life and your soul purpose than just that. There is the ultimate goal which is the ascension of all to a place where all understand they are part of the One. So if you feel you are JUST exploring empathy whether as the novice, intermediary or advanced empath, you are not. You are on the ascension path whether you are aware of that fact or not. So although you may be reaching out a hand with just empathy in mind know that as there is a response to that hand you hold out, maybe for the first time in your life, it is taken to be guided with more than just empathy in mind. Empathy and the realization you are an empath may be just the beginning for you…be open to where you may be led.

Many empaths feel that they have it hard. They are trying to live their life’s and deal with their own emotions while at the same time having to deal with feeling the emotions of others, often many others and at one time. Many are at a place where they don’t know if issues of anxiety, depression, etc that they are dealing with are truly their own or an affect of empathy. It is at time not easy for an empath to separate, however that is one of many reasons to work on becoming a skilled empath. And to become a skilled empath there are no rituals involved, no need to light candles, do certain things during the full moon, or write things on a piece of paper and burn them in your backyard in the middle of the night. All that you do if it is something you happen to enjoy, but know that rituals are not needed as you work on becoming a skilled empath. There is hard work involved but this type of work is work where the tools that are needed are already within you and not outside of you.

(Yeshua speaks) Many of you spend much time looking for answers outside of yourself. Do you really think so little of yourself that you think the One would have created YOU but given the answers that your soul seeks to another? You were given and have everything within you to do all the things you set out to accomplish in this lifetime. It matters not whether you believe that or not because as time moves on in the way you think that it does all will be proven…and in your own time. When you are ready for the answer they will be there just as when you are ready for help it will be given to you.

The title above is “Be Ready to Change and Improve.” The reason for the title is that many of you are working on the one thing and not the other. Whether you are focused on developing your empathy, psychic abilities or psi abilities, it matters not because if you do not also work on yourself those things will all fall short of where you want them to be. Many are taught when they are young that when they start on something they need to put their best foot forward. Well some of you are not putting your best foot forward. Think about it. Could you possibly try a little harder, be a little nicer, complain a little less, or love a little more? The answer should always, no matter where you are along your path, be yes.

Put You Best Foot Forward!

Don’t Speak – Listen!
You have access to much guidance from so many different sources. You may not agree with everything you hear or are told, but in the beginning listen more than you talk. As you grow and learn what may not seem like truth now may be realized in a different way in the future as your knowledge increases and your belief system changes. Take all the knowledge in that is available to you whether you are in fully understanding of it at this time or not. In the silence there is much to be gained.

Get Your Ego in Check!
Your ego is so use to being in control with no one stopping it and making it take a back seat. It is ego that makes people sometimes want to prove the other wrong. It is ego that sometimes make you want to develop in a certain way or within a certain time frame. It is ego that makes you feel that for someone to be right someone has to be wrong. This is all the way of the old and you must let go of it by consciously working on controlling the negative ego. If a thought comes to you that is not very positive or nice, stop and take the time to think of where it is coming from before you proceed further. If something or someone makes you frustrated or angry, stop and question yourself. Ask yourself “Does it really matter?” Many times it does not. I am always reminded when dealing with my 5 year old of a couple of things…repeatedly. Lol. One is that you may win the battle but lose the war. The other is to pick your battles..NOT WISELY, BUT DIVINELY. If you are not sure what I mean by that then let me just say LEAD BY EXAMPLE. Is it worth the fight and then consequently the lowering of vibrations, putting yourself in a place where you would then attract negativity? Like attracts like. If you are dealing with someone who is maybe in a place where they want to argue and want to be combative with you, will it then help you at all to play the game with them and then find yourself right down there with them? Maybe you can be more helpful to all situations if you stay true to yourself. As the situations change…your job, as the divine being you are, is to stay the same and leave those vibrations right where they are in that high place. You can lose the battle and still won the war…for yourself.

Put Your Big Girl/Boy Pants on and Stop Your Whining!
Okay, that a little harsh sounding isn’t it. Yes, sorry, I really want to make sure I have your attention and I think I do. The place where you find yourself has a specific purpose compared to other place possible for you to have incarnated to. Earth is the only planet that is a learning and experience planet. Earth is a place most, although not all, have come for the lessons through experiences. Many of you could have chosen differently, however you choose to incarnate here and you were more than just a little involved in planning the experiences you would have in your lifetime. If something is going on in your life, although this may not be comforting for you to know, you chose to experience it. Many have asked me “Why would I do this to myself?” You saw the potential value that learning certain lessons and having certain experiences would have. There is potential in everything no matter how bad or negative it may seem on the surface. Stop and take time to analyze things and determine if you see an opportunity in it to gain something from it. If you see someone today and they seem ready to instigate negative communication with you, could that possibly be an opportunity for you to practice being the silent observer? If someone is not behaving the way you think they should then possibly you have a choice to be judgmental or to practice acceptance. Which will you choose? If someone says something or does something hurtful to you, will you convince yourself that you must not let them get away with it or will you practice control of ego and take a step back, keeping true to yourself? The choice is yours. Will you choose the lower vibrations of the 3rd dimension or will you choose the higher dimensions and only respond with love? I can tell you that if all of humanity practiced acceptance there would be no more whining. Take some time for yourself and think or meditate on that thought.

I wish you well as we all make our way forward.

For those of you who struggle with emotional outbursts at time like me and have been consciously working on a cure for this I think I can be of help. I have been working so, so, so, so, hard lately that often the thought of what of myself I have been putting into it brings me to tears in a good way.

When we suffer those emotional outbursts and get angry, frustrated, annoyed, infuriated even it is because of two things. FEAR and HABIT. Just as habit has me smoking cigarettes, habit too will cause emotional outbursts at times. You may ask yourself “What is this THING that takes control of me so suddenly I can’t seem to stop it before it arises?” I asked that so many times in the past it would make your head spin.

There is habit in the reaction and the emotional outburst is the reaction based on fear. That is the first thing to understand. The second thing to understand is that it is NOT as simple as “just don’t let your self get upset.” The person that tells you that is the answer and solution is not helping you but instead trying to convince you that there is something wrong with you that is not wrong with them. Phish! Actually there is a difference in the two of you but it is not that one of you has more restraint or control. Ask yourself why you react to a certain situation the way you do. I will answer it for you. FEAR. Ahhh, but I bet you may be saying that you are no longer that being living and being controlled by fears. Yes, that may be true as it is true for me as well. I don’t have those fears any more. For example, if my child is fooling around when I am trying to get him ready for school eventually I get frustrated and annoyed and if he continues to refuse to take seriously that time when it is time to focus on getting ready I have an outburst of emotions….aka I yell, threaten, or do the take away. Laugh if you will but I know the Mother’s out there reading understand what I speak of very well. This is not support group time though but instead a time for a final solution that will free us all. Back to the scenario… it was not his lack of focus on getting dressed but instead the fear that use to be associated with what that situation would cause. That situation use to mean that his fooling around would cause us to be late. Then that would mean he would be late for school. That would then mean an uncomfortable conversation with a teacher who had no sympathy for what I went through to get him ready for school. Okay so that is the fear part. But as I said that fear is no longer an issue because I am not that person any more that is so worried about displeasing another. I am the person that knows and realizes as TRUTH that my son being late for school, although possibly disruptive to the class and inconvenient to the teacher, is NOT the end of the world and no real cause for fear and anxiety on anyone’s part.

So, why the emotional reaction then? HABIT. How long was that the standard reaction? How many years did I react out of fear of displeasing someone and that then led to me exhibiting a negative emotion? Oh, a very long time. So what was really created during that time? A HABIT! So now what we are left with is that habit still to get rid of. A reconditioning of ourselves is a way you can think of it. Reconditioning ourselves to a reaction that suites who we are now. If you have changed and are no longer the person you use to be and have realized your higher God-self then of course everything else has to change as well. It’s like saying you can’t be God-like and still at the same time be Human-like. See it for what it is…a conditioned HABIT and start the process of re-conditioning yourself. I will leave you with an important fiat or mantra, I guess you can call it, which you can use. It is one that I use throughout the day to not only remind myself of who I am but to help to expand my awareness. “Peace be still and know that I AM God!”