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I hope today has been a wonderful day for you thus far.

I would like to discuss the internet and potential dangers you need to be aware of. We all think of the internet as a technological convenience and some like myself can’t live with out it for more than a couple of days. Most of the time we email, partake in social networking and play some games all without incident. You still need to be aware that as an empath or HSP (highly sensitive person) that you can also connect to people through innocent communications. Email, chat, websites, social networking sites, and even phone calls and mobile text messages.

It happens the same way as it does when you are simply thinking about someone and connect to them. Thought is a powerful thing, especially for an energy sensitive person. How and if it happens also depends on where you are at vibration wise. Are your vibrations low from negative self talk or negative emotions in general? If they are low then you have to remember that you will attract like vibrations. If your vibrations are in a good place then you will be less likely to attract that connection which may leave you feeling drained and powerless.

The best way to protect yourself is to ground and protect every day. It is also helpful to get into the habit of protecting yourself, your computer and your space before having that internet time. Place a bubble of protection large enough to include your computer and space around you with the intention that you will be fully protected from anything that might be harmful to you now or in the future. So, if you haven’t done so already brush up on your protection skills.

If you do find yourself connected to some one or feeling as though you are under a psychic attack remember a few key things:

-Nothing can hurt you unless you believe that it can
-Daily use of protection before computer use will help keep you safe
-Learn to technique of cutting cords through visualization
-Ask for help when you need it because your spirit helpers, Yeshua, God can not help you unless you ask because of the Law of Freewill

Show respect to God/source by protecting the very thing that he has given you that is most precious…your SELF.

Often I peek in on the empath groups of which there are many. I have met some wonderful empaths in all shapes and sizes. I am always thrilled to see how many are just realizing that they may be or are empaths and witnessing their eagerness to learn and start on the process of becoming a control empath.

I have asked Yeshua and my master teacher guide to help out here with some words. This will not be all sugar but it is time we add that spice and also give a little tough love. As I read others words and comments in the online community I am often being pushed to say much however I hold back a little because there are also many out there who are ready to be very combative and this is not what this is all about. This is about not the one but the many. This is about growth of the group, humanity, and giving a helping hand to humanity and not pacifying the one who is coming from a place of ego and low vibrations. I told you this would not be all sugar…but hang in there with me.

Even if you are just now realizing that you may be an empath you must know that there is more to it, more to you, your life and your soul purpose than just that. There is the ultimate goal which is the ascension of all to a place where all understand they are part of the One. So if you feel you are JUST exploring empathy whether as the novice, intermediary or advanced empath, you are not. You are on the ascension path whether you are aware of that fact or not. So although you may be reaching out a hand with just empathy in mind know that as there is a response to that hand you hold out, maybe for the first time in your life, it is taken to be guided with more than just empathy in mind. Empathy and the realization you are an empath may be just the beginning for you…be open to where you may be led.

Many empaths feel that they have it hard. They are trying to live their life’s and deal with their own emotions while at the same time having to deal with feeling the emotions of others, often many others and at one time. Many are at a place where they don’t know if issues of anxiety, depression, etc that they are dealing with are truly their own or an affect of empathy. It is at time not easy for an empath to separate, however that is one of many reasons to work on becoming a skilled empath. And to become a skilled empath there are no rituals involved, no need to light candles, do certain things during the full moon, or write things on a piece of paper and burn them in your backyard in the middle of the night. All that you do if it is something you happen to enjoy, but know that rituals are not needed as you work on becoming a skilled empath. There is hard work involved but this type of work is work where the tools that are needed are already within you and not outside of you.

(Yeshua speaks) Many of you spend much time looking for answers outside of yourself. Do you really think so little of yourself that you think the One would have created YOU but given the answers that your soul seeks to another? You were given and have everything within you to do all the things you set out to accomplish in this lifetime. It matters not whether you believe that or not because as time moves on in the way you think that it does all will be proven…and in your own time. When you are ready for the answer they will be there just as when you are ready for help it will be given to you.

The title above is “Be Ready to Change and Improve.” The reason for the title is that many of you are working on the one thing and not the other. Whether you are focused on developing your empathy, psychic abilities or psi abilities, it matters not because if you do not also work on yourself those things will all fall short of where you want them to be. Many are taught when they are young that when they start on something they need to put their best foot forward. Well some of you are not putting your best foot forward. Think about it. Could you possibly try a little harder, be a little nicer, complain a little less, or love a little more? The answer should always, no matter where you are along your path, be yes.

Put You Best Foot Forward!

Don’t Speak – Listen!
You have access to much guidance from so many different sources. You may not agree with everything you hear or are told, but in the beginning listen more than you talk. As you grow and learn what may not seem like truth now may be realized in a different way in the future as your knowledge increases and your belief system changes. Take all the knowledge in that is available to you whether you are in fully understanding of it at this time or not. In the silence there is much to be gained.

Get Your Ego in Check!
Your ego is so use to being in control with no one stopping it and making it take a back seat. It is ego that makes people sometimes want to prove the other wrong. It is ego that sometimes make you want to develop in a certain way or within a certain time frame. It is ego that makes you feel that for someone to be right someone has to be wrong. This is all the way of the old and you must let go of it by consciously working on controlling the negative ego. If a thought comes to you that is not very positive or nice, stop and take the time to think of where it is coming from before you proceed further. If something or someone makes you frustrated or angry, stop and question yourself. Ask yourself “Does it really matter?” Many times it does not. I am always reminded when dealing with my 5 year old of a couple of things…repeatedly. Lol. One is that you may win the battle but lose the war. The other is to pick your battles..NOT WISELY, BUT DIVINELY. If you are not sure what I mean by that then let me just say LEAD BY EXAMPLE. Is it worth the fight and then consequently the lowering of vibrations, putting yourself in a place where you would then attract negativity? Like attracts like. If you are dealing with someone who is maybe in a place where they want to argue and want to be combative with you, will it then help you at all to play the game with them and then find yourself right down there with them? Maybe you can be more helpful to all situations if you stay true to yourself. As the situations change…your job, as the divine being you are, is to stay the same and leave those vibrations right where they are in that high place. You can lose the battle and still won the war…for yourself.

Put Your Big Girl/Boy Pants on and Stop Your Whining!
Okay, that a little harsh sounding isn’t it. Yes, sorry, I really want to make sure I have your attention and I think I do. The place where you find yourself has a specific purpose compared to other place possible for you to have incarnated to. Earth is the only planet that is a learning and experience planet. Earth is a place most, although not all, have come for the lessons through experiences. Many of you could have chosen differently, however you choose to incarnate here and you were more than just a little involved in planning the experiences you would have in your lifetime. If something is going on in your life, although this may not be comforting for you to know, you chose to experience it. Many have asked me “Why would I do this to myself?” You saw the potential value that learning certain lessons and having certain experiences would have. There is potential in everything no matter how bad or negative it may seem on the surface. Stop and take time to analyze things and determine if you see an opportunity in it to gain something from it. If you see someone today and they seem ready to instigate negative communication with you, could that possibly be an opportunity for you to practice being the silent observer? If someone is not behaving the way you think they should then possibly you have a choice to be judgmental or to practice acceptance. Which will you choose? If someone says something or does something hurtful to you, will you convince yourself that you must not let them get away with it or will you practice control of ego and take a step back, keeping true to yourself? The choice is yours. Will you choose the lower vibrations of the 3rd dimension or will you choose the higher dimensions and only respond with love? I can tell you that if all of humanity practiced acceptance there would be no more whining. Take some time for yourself and think or meditate on that thought.

I wish you well as we all make our way forward.

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Empath Update November 2, 2009

“It’s time to DO YOU!”

I realize that the posts related directly to empathy have been sparse lately. Well, I am going to see if I can rectify that by doing Empath Updates every couple of weeks, but at least once a month. These will be similar to energy updates some of you are accustom to reading, such as Karen Bishop’s which I have been reading almost faithfully for two years, because empaths tend to not only be affect by what they pick up from other’s but also from everything in their environment including energy shifts, natural disasters, and even when something happens such as the death of someone that many in the world are affected by.

In this first update I would like to remind you to remember that you may be an empath but you are also so much more than that which affects you. For example, you may be an empath but also precognitive or clairsentient and that may at times feel like a double whamming to you. I am remind of that line in the movie Mummy “Death is only the beginning!” So true, but think of empathy the same way. “Empathy is only the beginning” but there is so much more to you that is also going on inside you.

October was a month that began with a big bang with the full moon and ended on a beautiful and bright positive note with the new moon and new beginnings that should be allowing you to breath a sigh of relief. October was a month that screamed transformation. You may have noticed your intuition felt like it was turned up from a 5 to a 10 and most of the month you may have felt like you were so on. It was a month about communications changing and us being able to get back out there in the world and start mingling again but without concern for being a support to or healing others.

After we have left October and now are in November, beginning this month of magic with the new moon we are still adjusting but to the new finally being in place and the old behind us. You may not feel that right now but that is just a part of the adjustment. As an empath you need to let go of protecting yourself so strongly and open up and le tit all flow in and without fear. Once you do this you will notice that you can fully embrace your empath self and feeling others without pain and suffering as we us to. This month is very much about opening up and going forward with No Fear. Coincidentally that was the lesson of the month at my son’s karate school. No fear! I thought it was great because we are actually finally in a time where we can let go of fears and anxieties. But if you are still feeling them or suddenly feeling fears and anxieties that haven’t bothered you in a while rearing their ugly heads, don’t worry, that just means it is time to explore those things from the inside out and finally release them. As an empath what you feel from another may be what has you feeling things that remind you of fears and anxieties that you have not suffered in a while.

We are in a time where we are no longer being asked to be the support and hold others up who can’t stand on their own feet. Although that may sound harsh but hey don’t shoot the messenger. Lol. We had to know that this time was eventually coming where it would be a sink or swim situation. How this will manifest is that we may notice some relationships ending or a gradually distancing happening between you and another, some may move, some may decide to go back home at this time. That why it reminds me of a sink or swim situation. Be in acceptance of everything because there still is ascension for all no matter which direction we are all heading whether that is to continue on here or to be a support for the cause from the other side. As an empath you may find yourself sitting next to a friend that is in a bad place. Know that you are not there to solve their problem or try to push them onto the right path. If you feel what they are going through empathically that is not a sign you are meant to help them, heal them, or take on their pain or suffering. This is a time to just be the friend and offer acceptance without judgment. The same goes for those people in your life who are constantly pushing you to your very limits. As an empath those are the people who in your past may have affected you negatively the most. This is a time to see that you can put your big girl and big boy pants on, have acceptance of them for who they are (and see them for who they truly are, their God self), just think and send thoughts of love, and don’t do that old familiar dance of chaos with them. Stay true to yourself and know that whatever another has going on that may be of a lower vibration can no longer hurt you if you believe that it can’t.

As an empath, this month take advantage of what you feel from others to be the reminder of those things you have left to work on. Fears, anxiety, regrets, resentments, etc. Explore those things using the laws/principles of balance, choices, process, expectation, action, surrender, unity and finally acceptance.

The biggest thing for this month will be that you may make the decision to no longer deal with certain people and certain situations and you will notice that most likely it is because they are no longer a vibrational match for you but also you are no longer willing to try to move back and forth between the lower and your higher vibrations. Just know that it is perfectly okay to let go of what no longer serves you or affects you negatively. Accept everyone and everything for what it is and with love just “Do You!”

I think this is an excellent question to explore if you are an empath. One of the hardest things about being an empath often is not understanding why you are an empath. You think there must be a reason why you would exist in this world as an empath.

Let me take a second to define what an empath is in case this is the first post on this blog you are reading.

And empath is someone who can feel the emotions and sometimes pain of others as though they were their own. Much different from sympathizing or simply empathizing. To empathize with someone means possible from personal experiences you can UNDERSTAND what they are going through or experiencing. And EMPATH is very different in that they KNOW what you are going through and experiencing because they have the ability to feel it WITHIN themselves as though it were THEIR OWN emotion or pain. An unskilled empath often doesn’t know when they feel something that it is not their own emotion or pain they are feeling. Empathy transcends time and space. And empath can feel the energy of the emotion or pain not just from another human being (spirit living a physical existence) but also from animals, plants, spirits on the other side as well. To give you an example, an empath may wake up feeling perfectly fine and in a good mood. Then suddenly they can find themselves feeling agitated and angry. They may even have a sense that they feel that way for a specific reason (giving insight into what the person they are feeling is going through). That seems innocent enough but imagine an empath feeling the pain of someone dislocating their knee or getting an IV put in and you can understand why many empath want to know why they have been blessed with such a gift.

Getting back to whether an empath has a specific purpose of job to do in life, the answer is yes. An empaths most important job is just being…just existing. And empath transmutes negative energy and an empath also has the ability to project energy/light. Two important things an empath needs to do to serve the world and their purpose as an empath is to become a skilled/controlled empath and just exist.

So far in Part I and II we have gone over the basics of grounding and protection. By now you should be at a point where you feel not only comfortable with grounding and protecting but also more confident. Before doing any thing related to developing empathy, psychic abilities or just even doing chakra work it is very important that you ground and protect. Sorry to have to be redundant but I know for myself in the beginning even though I knew how important it was I would often forget at times myself. The reality is that some times you will have a busy day and maybe you do not take the time in the morning to ground and protect because you are running late or your 4 year old decides he’s going to cut his own hair and it side tracts you. So if you got busy and didn’t do it this morning, do it now.

So in this Part III I have decided that it is time to purposely feel. As an empath you get use to picking up things here and there that you are not actually attempting to. You are probably use to feeling strangers in the grocery store checkout lane without any effort and feeling that you really didn’t need to know that the cashier was in a bad mood or that the person directly in front of you has some dental problem. True. But how about using that ability to your advantage? What things can you think of that would be useful to know? Whether your boss is in a good mood or whether you need to be on your best behavior and keep your distance? Whether a co-worker has ill intentions and is planning to stab you in the back? Whether your 5 year old is lying about who broke that vase?

In order to feel there needs to be a connection to what you are attempting to feel. Just like there are many ways to ground and protect there are various ways to connect to someone or some thing. Remember that everything is made up of energy regardless of what it is. Whether it is a chair, your dog, your rose bush or your neighbor it is all made up of energy. Everything also has an different energy signature or vibration. No two are the same although to feel it may be hard to differentiate many times. The best place to begin learning to connect and to begin empathically feeling is right in your own backyard. The trees, the grass, that blooming plant you favor so much, the bird that are perched on tree nearby, that cat that is walking by on his/her way home, etc.

Connecting

I will write about two different ways to connect. Before practicing it is best if you clearly understand how to disconnect, so do not gloss over that information.

When I connect to anything I visualize in my minds eye and imagine myself merging with the person or object. Okay, think of something you might see on Star Trek. You can either see yourself merging into the person or object or the object or person merging into you. Once you are connected you should be able to feel that you are. Now this is very important…if you don’t know 100% how you feel you will have a hard time knowing when you are connected and feeling someone else. So before you say I did it and I don’t know if it worked or not, know that unless you have gotten to the point where you can discern what is your and what is not you will have a hard time knowing when and if you are connected. Hence one of the common problems of an empath, right? So what do you do? You will only learn to feel the difference by continually trying. Don’t give up because it is hard. Who said it would be easy? Not I. lol. But if you keep trying I assure you it will get easier and easier to feel what is and is not yours.

Another way to connect is through your chakras. For example, when connecting to a person you visualize that a stream of energy that is cord like is going out from your charkas and connecting to the other persons chakras. So root chakra to root chakra, third eye to third eye, crown to crown, etc. When it comes to telepathy it is similar, so if you have taken any courses in telepathy such as “SANANDA COURSE IN TELEPATHY” this will be familiar to you.

Connected, Now What?

Be still. Here is where meditating will help you. Through meditation you have learned to still and quiet your mind. Psalm 46:10 “Be still and know that I am God.” Ah ha…how many of you have heard that bible verse said? Key “BE STILL!” Quiet your mind and allow yourself to feel. Question yourself in your head and ask “What do I feel? How does this person feel? How does this tree feel?” etc. As you are connected and are starring at that tree and seeing its branches blow in the wind, do you feel it…the swaying of the tree? Can you feel yourself start to sway?

It is a good idea to keep a note book or journal on your computer to note your experiences and what you feel specifically. Because often you feel things you don’t quite know what you are feeling. If you are connecting to your best friend and you feel something strange you have never felt before area your jaw area and then later she/he tells you they had a bad toothache or just had wisdom teeth pulled, you can then connect the feeling. This is not easy. Do not assume that you will know what it is that you are feeling exactly. It takes time to learn what various things feel like whether it comes to physical feelings or emotions. Sometimes you just know because you have felt the feeling before and you can tie it to something from your past experiences. Like for example, you may feel someones emotions and think to yourself “Oh I remember feeling this way when I was young and had to move away from my best friend.” The more experiences you have had in life I do believe the easier it is to discern what you are feeling.

Keep in mind that when you have a connection to someone or something it is a two way street. There is not just energy flowing one way but both ways. So just as you may be able to feel the other person, animal, plant, etc they can feel you as well. Also keep in mind that someone who is well developed when it comes to sensing subtle energy will feel you connect. So in practicing it is important that you be responsible and ethical.

Disconnecting

There are a couple of ways you can disconnect, and of course you will eventually choose your own way of connecting and disconnecting. I am giving you what I have come up with for me. You may think of a way to visualize connecting and disconnecting that is better or easier for you. So keep in mind, there is no one right way. One day you may even get a little craftier and come up with a trigger that allows you to connect and disconnect easily.

One way to disconnect is to visualize the person un-merging from you as though the two of you are slowing separating. After seeing the separation imagine seeing a cord that is still connecting the two of you. Visualize that you either have a sword (like the sword of Archangel Michael) and you cut the cord or that you pull the cord out of the other person and it retracts back into you. After the cord is severed see the other person surrounded in a white light bubble floating up, up, and away from you.

The other way to disconnect is to just see the other person a few feet in front of you, and see the cord connecting you both and sever it at which time you see them surrounded in a bright white light bubble and floating up and away from you.

Note that you may need to go through the motions of disconnecting several times before feeling that you are in fact disconnected from the other person. Based on what the other person has going on it may be easy or difficult to disconnect. There was a time I use to be scared to connect to people because of bad experiences I had with trying to disconnect from them. Say for example they are sick, are going through emotional issues, etc. and because of that their energy is low. So being connected to them it is like they are getting that extra energy their body needs. So, when it is time to disconnect I like to think of it as their subtle body doesn’t want the connection to be severed because it needs that extra energy at the time. And no it is not safe to play the hero and stay connected thinking you are doing a good thing for them. That will only eventually lead you to being drained of energy and feeling sick.

It is very difficult to disconnect from someone who has a substance abuse problem. If you run into a situation where you find you can’t disconnect, don’t panic. Stay calm and ask your guides, God, Yeshua (Jesus), or Archangel Michael to help you disconnect. Remember they can’t help you unless you ask for help. They may see you panicked and flopping around like a fish and still they can’t help you until you ask for help.

The Difference between Developing and Developed

In the beginning when you are developing you will have limited control. Connecting and disconnecting may not be easy in the beginning. With practice of course you will get better. Once fully developed you will have not only control but the confidence needed to feel you are always in control of yourself.

Privacy

Of course I have to bring this up. Often you will feel something that someone is feeling. Regardless of your ability that is still private information. You have an obligation and a responsibility to be moral and ethical when it comes to knowing things about people. Don’t get caught up into trying to develop your empathic abilities so much that you cross the line. Often there are things people do not want anyone to know and do not want to openly discuss with you. Just because you can feel do not feel that it is your responsibility to help someone just because you can feel them. Be very careful and if you are unsure of what to do with information you receive…that is your answer…do nothing with it and keep it to yourself.

So far in Part I and II we have gone over the basics of grounding and protection. By now you should be at a point where you feel not only comfortable with grounding and protecting but also more confident. Before doing any thing related to developing empathy, psychic abilities or just even doing chakra work it is very important that you ground and protect. Sorry to have to be redundant but I know for myself in the beginning even though I knew how important it was I would often forget at times myself. The reality is that some times you will have a busy day and maybe you do not take the time in the morning to ground and protect because you are running late or your 4 year old decides he’s going to cut his own hair and it side tracts you. So if you got busy and didn’t do it this morning, do it now.

So in this Part III it is time to purposely feel. As an empath you get use to picking up things here and there that you are not actually attempting to. You are probably use to feeling strangers in the grocery store checkout lane without any effort and feeling that you really didn’t need to know that the cashier was in a bad mood or that the person directly in front of you has some dental problem. True. But how about using that ability to your advantage? What things can you think of that would be useful to know? Whether your boss is in a good mood or whether you need to be on your best behavior and keep your distance? Whether a co-worker has ill intentions and is planning to stab you in the back? Whether your 5 year old is lying about who broke that vase?

In order to feel there needs to be a connection to what you are attempting to feel. Just like there are many ways to ground and protect there are various ways to connect to someone or some thing. Remember that everything is made up of energy regardless of what it is. Whether it is a chair, your dog, your rose bush or your neighbor it is all made up of energy. Everything also has an different energy signature or vibration. No two are the same although to feel it may be hard to differiciate many times. The best place to begin learning to connect and to begin empathically feeling is right in your own backyard. The trees, the grass, that blooming plant you favor so much, the bird that are perched on tree nearby, that cat that is walking by on his/her way home, etc.

Connecting

I will write about two different ways to connect. Before practicing it is best if you clearly understand how to disconnect, so do not gloss over that information.

When I connect to anything I visualize in my minds eye and imagine myself merging with the person or object. Okay, think of something you might see on Star Trek. You can either see yourself merging into the person or object or the object or person merging into you. Once you are conencted you should be able to feel that you are. Now this is very important…if you don’t know 100% how you feel you will have a hard time knowing when you are connected and feeling someone else. So before you say I did it and I don’t know if it worked or not, know that unless you have gotten to the point where you can discern what is your and what is not you will have a hard time knowing when and if you are connected. Hence one of the common problems of an empath, right? So what do you do? You will only learn to feel the difference by continually trying. Don’t give up because it is hard. Who said it would be easy? Not I. lol. But if you keep trying I assure you it will get easier and easier to feel what is and is not yours.

Connected, Now What?

Be still. Here is where meditating will help you. Through meditation you have learned to still and quiet your mind. Psalm 46:10 “Be still and know that I am God.” Ah ha…how many of you have heard that bible verse said? Key “BE STILL!” Quiet your mind and allow yourself to feel. Question yourself in your head and ask “What do I feel? How does this person feel? How does this tree feel?” etc. As you are connected and are starring at that tree and seeing its branches blow in the wind, do you feel it…the swaying of the tree? Can you feel yourself start to sway?

It is a good idea to keep a note book or journal on your computer to note your experiences and what you feel specifically. Because often you feel things you don’t quite know what you are feeling. If you are connecting to your best friend and you feel something strange you have never felt before area your jaw area and then later she/he tells you they had a bad toothache or just had wisdom teeth pulled, you can then connect the feeling. This is not easy. Do not assume thatyou will know what it is that you are feeling exactly. It takes time to learn what verious things feel like whether it comes to physical feelings or emotions. Sometimes you just know because you have felt the feeling before and you can tie it to something from your past experiences. Like for example, you may feel someone’s emotions and think to yourself “Oh I remember feeling this way when I was young and had to move away from my best friend.” The more experiences you have had in life I do beleive the easier it is to discern what you are feeling.

Another way to connect is through your chakras. For example, when connecting to a person you visualize that a stream of energy that is cord like is going out from your charkas and connecting to the other persons chakras. So root chakra to root chakra, third eye to third eye, crown to crown, etc. When it comes to telepathy it is similar, so if you have taken any courses in telepathy such as “SANANDA COURSE IN TELEPATHY” this will be familiar to you.

Keep in mind that when you have a connection to someone or something it is a two way street. There is not just energy flowing one way but both ways.

Disconnecting

Disconnecting is actually very easy. The actual how to is simple. It is a matter of visualization and those of you who are great visualizers or day dreamers will find it easier. Not to worry though, the more you visualize the better and easier it will get. To disconnect from someone visualize seeing them a few feet away from you and a cord or stream of energy from you to them. You can imagine that you have a sword and you cut the cord. As you cut the cord you see the other person surrounded in a bubble of light floating up and away from you. Another method is to visualize that you see yourself pulling/yanking the cord out of them and it retracting back into you…and still seeing them afterwards surrounded by a bubble of white light floating up and away from you.

As you are disconnecing pay attention to what you feel. When you have finally disconnected you should feel a lightness or a lifting of the affects of the connections. Do a check! How do you feel? Do you still feel them? Are you aware of them and how they feel at all?

Should you have trouble disconnecting from someone…ASK FOR HELP! Ask your guide or higher self for help…ask them to sever the connection for you.

Privacy

Of course I have to bring this up. Often you will feel something that someone is feeling. Regardless of your ability that is still private information. You have an obligation and a responisiblity to be moral and ethical when it comes to knowing things about people. Don’t get caught up into trying to develop your empathic abilities so much that you cross the line. Often there are things people do not want anyone to know and do not want to openly discuss with you. Just because you can feel do not feel that it is your responsibility to help someone just because you can feel them. Be very careful and if you are unsure of what to do with information you receive…that is your answer…do nothing with it and keep it to yourself.

Some days…mornings…when it’s peacefully quiet, one of those mornings when I step outside, bare feet on the ground, I look up and the sky is that beautiful blue with not a cloud in the sky and the only thing breaking it’s beauty is the magnificence of the sun…and it fills me. It’s warm and refreshing and the warmth and the blue that suddenly seems so amazing to me fills me. I feel it filling me from my crown all the way down my body and through my feet and through the earth making me feel connected to all, to everything. I speak to him…like this morning. It had been a couple of days and as I stood there I told him how even just a couple of days passing without talking to him…I notice it like when you leave your house and have that overwhelming feeling that you have forgotten something important. Just two days I feel like I haven’t talked to him, the one I love so deeply and completely, as though it was not just days but years. And I tell him in that moment I think of how different my life is, how far we have come…together. Where I use to be but where I am now. And I feel it, the fullness expanding inside me like it can’t be contained because there is nothing that could contain something so huge. I feel the touch in the palm of my left hand and then as I say “I’m listening, what do you want to tell me…what do you want me to feel?” I feel the touch in the palm of my right hand. Then in the stillness I look around and everything I look at, I feel. The trees, the grass, even the stillness itself…and I feel my heart chakra open and begin to spin…faster and faster. I feel the message…and in that moment nothing else matters but the love I feel. What I had for breakfast, the traffic I ran into that morning when I was running late, the things I pondered that morning as I got dressed, who will call me later that day and what they will want. In that moment there was only me and you and the thought crossed my mind that at that moment I was only connected to, only feeling, a very small portion of you…because you are so vast, so huge, that at any given moment I am only experiencing a very small part of you…and just that thought alone amazes me. And I am thankful and grateful for that small part of you I can experience and for the love I feel for you.

After a few moments I came back inside and sat at my computer. I was watching Jamie Foxx’s youtube video of I Wish You Were Here Live that was recorded no long after his grandmother died. Sometimes I feel the need to feel. I want to feel. I long to feel. I did not feel anything negative even though as you can imagine he was still mourning. But I didn’t feel sadness, despair…but love that covered everything. There was great longing, there was a holding back of great emotions to be able to get through, but everything I felt from him was completely covered with love. And I love watching the video because it actually moves me in a positive way. And once the video was over I touched nothing on the computer but the next song in the fav’s list started to play…if you use youtube you know after a video finishes that it sit on the screen asking if you want to replay or play a different song. I looked at the screen and the title showing still said “Wish You Were Here” but the the video “Love” by Musiq started playing.

LOVE
By: Musiq

Verse 1:
Love
So many things I’ve got to tell you
But I’m afraid I don’t know how
Cause there’s a possibility
You’ll look at me differently
Love
Ever since the first moment I spoke your name
From then on I knew that by you being in my life
Things were destined to change cause……

Chorus:
Love
So many people use your name in vain
Love
Those who have faith in you sometimes go astray
Love
Through all the ups and downs the joy and hurt
Love
For better or worse I still will choose you first

Verse 2:
Many days I’ve longed for you
Wanting you
Hoping for the chance to get to know you
Longing for your kiss
For your kiss, for your touch, for your essence (your beautiful essence)
Many nights I’ve cried from the things you do
Felt like I could die from the thought of losing you
I know that you’re real
With no doubt or no fears
Or no questions

Hook:
At first you didn’t mean that much to me
But now I know that you’re all I need
The world looks so brand new to me
Now that I found love
Everyday I live for you
And everything that I do I do it for you
What I say is how I feel so believe it’s true
You got to know I’m true, love

I tried to base this list on what I experienced before becoming a completely awakened empath. Some examples of experiences are from when I was young and some as recent as 10 years ago. Now that I am a skilled empath I look back and all of my past makes sense now. I hope you find this list helpful.

Weak Emotional Stability - picking up peoples emotions and not knowing it I often experienced mood swings. Some not so bad and others quite extreme. I could be fine one minute and totally pissed the next. I could be happy one moment and then sobbing uncontrollably the next.

Feelings Easily Hurt - Often I was called “too sensitive.” I would take criticism really hard. I can’t even say how many times I would be at work and have to go into the bathroom so no one would see me cry. My feelings were easily hurt deeply.

Always Friends With or Trying to Help The Underdog - I didn’t understand it but I was feeling the emotions of others to the point where I felt drawn to befriend them, try to help them, or just offer kind words even if it was a stranger I didn’t know. I once offer a co-worker who was crying (and had been crying for at least 30 minutes) the money she needed ($300) for her over drawn bank account if she would just stop crying. Yes, I was quite serious and would have wrote her a check on the spot if it would have gotten her to stop crying. My saying that to her did make her stop crying because she though it funny how desperate I was to get her to stop crying. She laughing for a couple of minutes and then to my horror when right back to crying again. lol. The best way I can describe it is that it is a feeling of “I don’t want to just console you, I want to cry with you.” You remember the saying “I am not laughing at you, I am laughing with you.” That says it all!

Not Loud Noise…loud Negativity - There is a big difference! Loud noise is fireworks on the 4th of July. Loud Negativity is being present or near and feeling the negative emotions of an argument between two people. Loud music to me is just loud music…and I get my groove on and enjoy it! lol. A difference of opinion between people who get a little loud when it comes to making their point and have a lot of emotion behind it because they greatly disagree with the other(s) view point is negative noise that I feel I want to get away from. For example, I love watching The View. But, pre-election when they would get into heated debates I would have to turn the channel…my stomach gets all knotted up and I start to feel like I could hyper-ventilate at any moment.

Knowing Whether You Are Liked- I always knew what someone felt for me. They wouldn’t have to say anything to me or about me for me to know. I could not only sense it but also sense the reasons behind it. Some times with a simple “hello” I knew it all. With just one word said to me Icould pick up the feelings behind it, so I was really good at sensing fake emotions or when someone was lying to me. There were many times before I knew I was an empath that someone could say one innocent word and I would have to fight off the tears because of the truth I felt behind it. Being an empath is very much about knowing the truth. It can’t be hidden from you no matter how hard someone tries because you can feel it.

Movies and the News Affect - You may or may not have trouble watching sad or violent movies and news stories. I didn’t always…it was something that started subtly and grew until it was so noticeable to me that something was up and I could no longer ignore it.

Relationship Problems- In relationships my emotional needs never felt satisfied. I really sorry I can’t elaborate on this. I honestly can’t explain it. But to give one example…I ended a relationship quite suddenly because of sudden feelings I picked up. I didn’t know where they came from but they felt like mine and boy did I act on it! I broke up with him on the spot and drove away with tires screeching, and as I drove away I racked my brain trying to figure out what had just happened and why I just ended my relationship. Empathy can sabotage a relationship when you are unaware that you are an empath and therefore act on emotions that are not your own. The hardest thing for an empath to get good at is knowing what is theirs and what is not. Once that is learned and you get a good handle on it life gets so much sweeter!

Exhaustion- When unaware that you are an empath and you are just walking around like a sponge sucking up all those emotions and making all those connections that go unbroken for days and days and just build up…it is very draining. Eventually you feel as though you have run out of energy in a big way. You may go days feeling tired. Maybe the drain of energy is happening during one of those long phone calls with a friends where they unburden themselves on you, about their day, their relationship, their co-workers, their parents, their kids, etc. They talk and you listen (maybe you are a great listener). This is draining to an empath and also considered a energy vampirism with the talkative friend being the energy vampire.

You Dont’ Think, You feel- I one day realized that I very rarely stated a sentence by saying “I think…” No, it was always “I feel…” I related to everything by feeling but didn’t really realize it. I often foudn it hard to explain myself to people. Of course, because often it was about feelings for me and I found it hard to put what I felt (what I knew from feeling) into words. I was once told by my father that I was very smart and good with computer but that when it came to explaining things I was very confusing. I know what I know…or rather I should say, I know what I feel but I have a hard time putting it into words that make sense. You can translate Spanish, French, etc but what about translating empathy and what you pick up as feelings?

I know this list is not very long, but I feel it is (and hope I don’t offend anyone by saying) more true to what a pre-awakened empath may experience/notice. Oh, see I did it again…notice I said “but I feel it is…” instead of “but I thinkit is…” lol.

Hi all! I am always fishing my mind and surroundings to come up with posts that will be useful and helpful to readers. I thought and often think to myself about the time way back when I was trying to figure out if I was an empath. For years and years I thought I was but didn’t even have a clue how to figure it out mainly because of not understanding at the time what an empath really was. Even after reading definitions of what an empath was  I would still sit there and say to myself “Well, that still doesn’t help me figure out if I am in fact an empath.”

In this post I will say what I honestly think and feel about trying to figure out if your an empath.

First, if you have come to this blog and are doing some reading it is no big surprise…it’s hard to figure it out. Knowing what and empath is and what an empath does will not help you figure it out. Being told by someone that you are in fact an empath will not help you either if you are like me and need some almost solid proof. To figure it out for yourself is to really know yourself. Lets face it, we all want to know ourselves…not be told about ourselves. Right? Then there are all the empath designated sites like this one that lists the traits of an empath. I also have a Traits of an Empath post on this blog and honestly I would like to remove it. It won’t really help you figure it out. Ya know, I will humbly admit that looking back at when I wrote that post I was just repeating what I had learned and the truth is we sometimes learn things along the way and realize that some info was just not as good or useful or accurate as we had thought. For example, some list a trait of an empath as “Empaths often have multiple pets.” That is not a really good trait to list of course. And the one that says empaths don’t like loud noise. Well, I know there are many empaths that are not bothered at all by loud noise.

Now, there is a reason though why the traits list doesn’t work to figure out whether you are an empath. Because at the time you go searching for answers it is because you are exhibiting some (but not all) signs that you may be an empath. Possibly you are noticing that sad or violent movies are affecting you more than in the past. Or maybe suddenly you are feeling more in tune with what is going on with other people as though you are reading then. And maybe you notice that you have this interesting affect on people. So, enough is going on with you to begin to question whether you are an empath but here is the problem. If you have not open and cleared all your chakras, especially your heart chakra, then you are not fully open to your empath self. Like your empath self may only be 25% open…not enough to know without a doubt whether you are an empath or not though.

And that is the problem. The reality is that to really discover who you are you hve to open up fully to who you are. I know it is kind of like me saying if you want to know if your an empath for yourself then you have to go through the process of opening and clearning all your charkas just to really be able to see for yourself.

So think about it…if the empath in you is only open 25% then you may not be able to relate to most of traits on the “Traits of an Empath” list. Honestly, before I fully awakened my empath self I didn’t match up with even half of the list.

I really don’t want to leave anyone hanging and feeling like there is no answer for them out there. I am going to work on a list that hopefully will be more helpful for those of you looking for answers. In the meantime feel free to ask for help and I will be happy to assist any way I can.

Here is where you can find my list of traits —> http://myjourney11.wordpress.com/2009/04/07/the-real-traits-of-an-empath-the-list/

I have written before about my son. I figure maybe my experiences and how I handle them might help others…or be an example of what not to do. lol.

Speaking of what not to do, do not try and argue with an empath toddler that is being affected by negative emotions they have picked up…because in the end there will be no winners although once your head explodes from frustration you will swear the child won. lol. However if you have a citrine crystal…sit him or her down hand them the crystal and talk to them…talk slowly. Talking slowly to someone has a calming hypnotic affect. Talk sweetly and lovingly the crystal will do the work of absorbing the negative emotions and break most of the connections. I say most cause it’s a crystal but not a magic wand. lol.

If because of the emotions your child has picked up they, in your view, are out of control and your ready to run for the hills and just let them have the house (we’ve all been there lol)…here is what you do. Take a moment and go into another room. Breath (pranic breathing if you can), relax, close your eyes if you prefer, and visualize that you have a sword and you are cutting the cords attached to your child. See the cords breaking and the people attached to them floating up and away in a bubble. Do this two or three times. Ta da! You just cut the cords for your child…feel proud and happy that you are doing a great job for your empath child. Pat on your back! Pat on your back! Pat on your back!