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Hi all! I am always fishing my mind and surroundings to come up with posts that will be useful and helpful to readers. I thought and often think to myself about the time way back when I was trying to figure out if I was an empath. For years and years I thought I was but didn’t even have a clue how to figure it out mainly because of not understanding at the time what an empath really was. Even after reading definitions of what an empath was  I would still sit there and say to myself “Well, that still doesn’t help me figure out if I am in fact an empath.”

In this post I will say what I honestly think and feel about trying to figure out if your an empath.

First, if you have come to this blog and are doing some reading it is no big surprise…it’s hard to figure it out. Knowing what and empath is and what an empath does will not help you figure it out. Being told by someone that you are in fact an empath will not help you either if you are like me and need some almost solid proof. To figure it out for yourself is to really know yourself. Lets face it, we all want to know ourselves…not be told about ourselves. Right? Then there are all the empath designated sites like this one that lists the traits of an empath. I also have a Traits of an Empath post on this blog and honestly I would like to remove it. It won’t really help you figure it out. Ya know, I will humbly admit that looking back at when I wrote that post I was just repeating what I had learned and the truth is we sometimes learn things along the way and realize that some info was just not as good or useful or accurate as we had thought. For example, some list a trait of an empath as “Empaths often have multiple pets.” That is not a really good trait to list of course. And the one that says empaths don’t like loud noise. Well, I know there are many empaths that are not bothered at all by loud noise.

Now, there is a reason though why the traits list doesn’t work to figure out whether you are an empath. Because at the time you go searching for answers it is because you are exhibiting some (but not all) signs that you may be an empath. Possibly you are noticing that sad or violent movies are affecting you more than in the past. Or maybe suddenly you are feeling more in tune with what is going on with other people as though you are reading then. And maybe you notice that you have this interesting affect on people. So, enough is going on with you to begin to question whether you are an empath but here is the problem. If you have not open and cleared all your chakras, especially your heart chakra, then you are not fully open to your empath self. Like your empath self may only be 25% open…not enough to know without a doubt whether you are an empath or not though.

And that is the problem. The reality is that to really discover who you are you hve to open up fully to who you are. I know it is kind of like me saying if you want to know if your an empath for yourself then you have to go through the process of opening and clearning all your charkas just to really be able to see for yourself.

So think about it…if the empath in you is only open 25% then you may not be able to relate to most of traits on the “Traits of an Empath” list. Honestly, before I fully awakened my empath self I didn’t match up with even half of the list.

I really don’t want to leave anyone hanging and feeling like there is no answer for them out there. I am going to work on a list that hopefully will be more helpful for those of you looking for answers. In the meantime feel free to ask for help and I will be happy to assist any way I can.

Here is where you can find my list of traits —> http://myjourney11.wordpress.com/2009/04/07/the-real-traits-of-an-empath-the-list/

I am writing this post for Lucille but hopefully this will be helpful to many of you.

Here is a senerio that is what I acutally experienced and lead me to deeply wonder if I was an empath…

Although all the signs were there I did not actually start seriously wondering if I was an empath until I was in my late 30’s after the birth of my son. I swear, I think having a child does something to change you so deeply. Parts of yourself that were always there unrealized start coming to the surface. Suddenly I couldn’t watch a movie or the news without totally losing it and bawling or shaking uncontrollably. I knew something was up but for about a year I just couldn’t figure out if I just never noticed that I was sensitive to certain things or if something was really changing within me…or awakening.

To make a long story short I started searching for information on emapthy but even reading about the traits still didn’t 100% convince me of whether I was an emapth or not but I had to know who I really was. Being adopted I always had a sense of not knowing but knowing there was more to me than what was on the surface. And so I searched like I was obsessed. lol. With every little bit of info I found it lead me to more. Empathy articles lead me to articles about meditation which lead me to info about chakras which lead me to information about psychic abilities and there it was again…empathy was mentioned and I had come full circle. But I was still feeling like “Ah Ha!” but still not knowing what it all meant specifically to ME. So I had learned a lot but still I had to know without a doubt the truth and so it seemed to me I would only find that out by opening and clearing my chakras.

I started by learning to meditate first…just 5 minutes at a time. Once I could meditate 5 minutes without my mind wondering and losing the stillness of my mind I began practicing opening and clearing the chakras in meditation starting with the foot charka and working my way up and then leaving the third eye/brow charka for last.

Approximately 3 weeks later it hit me suddenly. Just one day, just like that, I was fully awakened to who I really was…and empath. I left my house and drove to my parents house and two houses away I felt them. My Fathers cold, his head, my Mother medication issues, her allergies (not nice), etc. I was almost afraid to actually go in their house for fear of what I would feel standing right next to them.

Note that from the first time I opened and balanced my chakras I worked on them every day faithfully for approx 15-30 minutes a day. I say that to let you know…it doesn’t come easy…there is work involved. If you don’t do what is necessary or you don’t want to you will not achieve any results.

Now on to the good stuff.

The three chakras that most affect empathy are:

SACRAL PLEXUS CHAKRA-
Located about two inches below the navel. This chakra is responsible for our sexuality, physical vitality, emotions, pleasure, desire, passion, love, change, new ideas, and health. It corresponds with all things forementioned. Stones that open this chakra are carnelian and coral.
Color: Orange, balanced by brown

SOLAR PLEXUS CHAKRA-
Located just below the chest. This chakra represents ability to pick up vibrations and tune in to energy from other people, places, and things. It corresponds with self-control, control of desire, authority, transformation, happiness, and energy. Stones that open this chakra are amber and citrine.
Color: Yellow, balanced by green

HEART CHAKRA-
Located over the heart. This chakra represents empathy and our ability to ground energy that flows through our bodies. It corresponds with feelings, forgiveness, unconditional love, understanding, compassion, trust, and openness. Stones that open this chakra are jade and aventurine.
Color: Green, balanced by pink

Here is a guided meditation that is 7 minutes that you can follow along with.  http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rFqHa4gOP3c

I do beleive I have figured out what it is I feel (using my clairsentience) if someone is an empath. Feel free to post a comment if you want me to try to get a read on if you are in fact an empath and any other info regarding abilities you are blessed with.