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The Lesson of Acceptance

I was going to title this post “Acceptance of Others” which is actually the title of a channeling I recently read. I decided that “Acceptance” would be a much better title for this post because when I think of acceptance I not only think of acceptance of others but acceptance of all things regardless of whether they are things that can be changed or things that can not be change, or possibly should not be forced to change. Some may think acceptance and tolerance go hand in hand but really they do not. You can be tolerant but still not be in full acceptance of things and people.

How many of you have friends or family members who do a certain thing that you do not like? Possibly you hear yourself saying under your breath “Ohhh, she/he so annoys me sometimes!” And what do you do? Some times you try to discuss the issue with the person and then there are times when you decide to actually avoid a person because some of the things they do you find hard to swallow and even harder to keep continually biting your tongue. Yup, been there! For many of you who have been on a spiritual path for a while you recognize it for what it is. You tell yourself that it is okay because they are exactly where they are suppose to be at this point in their lives. You attempt to feel compassion for their situation because of the understanding you have of what is truly going on and not just the illusion. You tell yourself you will stay true to yourself no matter what and just ignore those things they do. You do all of those things and still deep inside you may feel annoyed and that you don’t have much tolerance for putting up with their crap for much longer. What is needed then? Acceptance!

The point you are at you need to learn to accept them for who they are even if you think they are the most screwed up person you know. Accept them for who they are and where they are at in their lives. Don’t look at them focused on the things about them you feel need to be changed and fixed. It is not your job to fix them or anyone else. That is only truly a concern of theirs. Do not think that just because you have the knowledge and expertise to help solve all their problems that it is your duty to step in and affect change in them. Again, it is not your duty to do that.

This may be a tough lesson for those who often help others because it is a part of their soul purpose. You may be feeling like you are flip-flopping back and forth. There are those you help who come to you or who are energetically drawn to you for help and of course that is fine. They are ready for that help and you give it to them generously. Then outside of the people you are put together with for the purpose of helping them are others who you are just to stand back and accept them for who they are and see and understand that it is not your job or duty to jump in and try and change them, especially if it is just not their time. They will come to the places they need to be in life in their own time just as you can remember that you resolved emotional issues and completed lessons when it was time and you were nudged by unseen forces to do so.

I can hear now someone saying to me “But, he did this to me and I didn’t deserve that!” or “But you don’t understand, she’s always doing this and the other thing to me!” Yes, and so? Think of this. If we never make any mistake or did those annoying things that others hated, what would we learn from and how would we eventually be able to correct ourselves and our behaviors? I am sure when you were in grade school you would not have appreciated a teacher who would berate you every time you got a math problem wrong. Hmmm, anyone out there have any anxieties related to math from those times when your Mother or Father would help you with homework and yell and get frustrated with you? Did you appreciate it? Did it help you learn? No, but you probably did learn that it was bad to make a mistake and that making mistakes were not acceptable. How did that make you feel, even now thinking about it? Do you really want to make another feel that way? What would that teach them and do you really think that would help them? No, of course not.

Use your own experiences from the past to help you to be able to show and give acceptance to others. Especially children because it is not to late to show them the way by leading by example. I am not saying do unto others as you would have them do unto you. I am saying do unto others the way you know to be the way of a higher spiritual being that you are.